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d og
Posts : 302 Join date : 2010-12-09 Age : 26
| Subject: How should I deal with this? Tue Apr 05, 2011 7:31 pm | |
| Okay,
so there's this girl that used to be one of my best friends. My mom doesn't want me to hang out with her anymore due to reasons that I will not say. The thing is, she said it in front of two teachers, and now they watch me like hawks to make sure I don't hang out with the girl. But shes also friends with my best friend, and she spends every waking moment with her. She practically won't let me hang out with her. I asked her to back off, but she said "But shes MY friend too!" So I calmly explained how she and I were BEST friends and that I would like to actually get a chance to hang out with her, but she didn't give a damn and she's being a jerk about it. I complained to the school councilor, but of course like all teachers would say, he said "Well you can sit with different people and make new friends!" but the thing is, due to some girls STUPID rumors about me, a LOT of people hate me. And I can't really sit with my friend in seventh grade because she will neglect me to her other friends, another friend of mine will always be sitting at a table with no more room for me, and theres a friend thats just talking to everyone else besides me. Which isn't exactly friendly. I can sit with a couple other people, but it takes a while before we can get in a good conversation. But I can always hang out with a friend named Sydney. Except for lunch and every class. The ONLY time I can hang out with my best friend is during science. And its not a good idea to talk during class, and she usually has her head buried in a book before class starts. It's really annoying and I'm usually left alone all the time except for lunch break, when I goof around with Quacky and Logan. What should I do?
And don't say, just make new friends!
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maddie ☹ Grammar Police
Posts : 3985 Join date : 2010-05-30 Age : 25 Location : ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Tue Apr 05, 2011 7:41 pm | |
| First of all, even though it's censored, you should probably change that 'b' word.
Second of all, try talking to her. Be reasonable and all. If not, and you have no friends, it seems like making new ones can only be the option, but you always have 'Quacky' and 'Logan'... Right? | |
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d og
Posts : 302 Join date : 2010-12-09 Age : 26
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Tue Apr 05, 2011 7:51 pm | |
| Okay,
and Quacky and Logan are in seventh grade. I can only hang out with them during lunch break.
I've also tried talking to her, but she complains that im trying to 'hog' my best friend. | |
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maddie ☹ Grammar Police
Posts : 3985 Join date : 2010-05-30 Age : 25 Location : ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Tue Apr 05, 2011 8:13 pm | |
| Tell her that she's crazy? xD
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Inaniloquist Admin
Posts : 1104 Join date : 2009-10-27 Age : 30
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Sat Apr 09, 2011 6:11 pm | |
| I think you were reasonable to talk to your friend's friend, but have you tried talking to your best friend alone? Tell her that when she's always hanging out with that other girl, you feel left out or something along those lines. Just pretty much tell her what you told us. Since she's you're best friend, she'll be sure to understand! I'm sure she'll put an effort to spend more time with you then. Still... You have to understand that your friends aren't always going to have friends that you like and you just have to find some way to comprimise.
Also, you did used to be good friends with this girl, and she probably felt the same way about you. Have you considered that perhaps she's being a bit bratty because she's feeling bad that you don't really want to be her friend anymore? If that's definitely not the case, sorry for mentioning it, but if you haven't thought about it you might want to. | |
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tethys Experienced Poster
Posts : 4230 Join date : 2010-05-13 Age : 26
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Sun Apr 10, 2011 9:46 am | |
| - Inaniloquist wrote:
- Still... You have to understand that your friends aren't always going to have friends that you like and you just have to find some way to comprimise.
That kind of reminds me of 2 of my friends. They're neighbors, and they used to be, like, best friends. One of my friends was over the other's house, and she kept pestering her to see what she was doing on the computer. That's all I remember from what they told me; this was a few years back. Now they seem to hate each other. Me and another friend tried to get them to be friends again, but every time something happens. We gave up; they just won't get along. But I'm still friends with both of them, even if they're not friends with each other. :]
Just felt like mentioning that. I didn't mean to make that long of a post . . . Sorry, I don't know how to help you. ]:
PS - You spelled compromise wrong. xD | |
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d og
Posts : 302 Join date : 2010-12-09 Age : 26
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Sun Apr 10, 2011 5:18 pm | |
| Eh well its nothing to deal with anymore. My best friend decided it would be okay to call me the b word, and I dont really want any part of her anymore, so you can drop the subject... | |
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Nico Chatbox Ruler
Posts : 5539 Join date : 2010-12-04 Age : 25 Location : your mom's house
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Mon Apr 11, 2011 5:08 pm | |
| That's really sad. I'm sorry for your friends actions. Maybe something is going on with her, or maybe she was just defending her feelings, or junk like that. Sometimes people make snap descisions.
I told my old best friend, Lexi, that I hated her once because she wa trying to setup Tori and Chase. It was probably the worst descision of my life, and it was a snap descision. To make things worse, it was because of CHASE. Things just haven't been the same since then, even when we made up.
What I'm trying to say is, you should give your friend another chance. I really like Inan's advise, and maybe try again. Try to reason with her. Best friends don't call each other names, even if you have been growing apart. | |
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Gazimu Mr. Content Cucumber
Posts : 1672 Join date : 2010-02-09 Age : 28 Location : Somewhere, waiting.
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Mon Apr 11, 2011 7:11 pm | |
| My sister had a problem like this.
Try inviting your best friend to your house or out somewhere on a weekend and talking to her there while doing something. | |
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hunter11
Posts : 2139 Join date : 2009-12-13 Age : 27 Location : camp half blood duh
| Subject: Re: How should I deal with this? Sat Apr 23, 2011 8:43 am | |
| The fact that your mom won't let you guys hang out sounds like a problem I had to deal with one of my best guy friends. Maybe you should just say to your friend that you're sick of fighting with her and it's time you two made up or something of that sort. | |
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