InRealLife Advice Thread

Hey, If you guys don't do IRL advice, then just tell me and I'll delete this.

So, My Grandpa just died In Real Life. Of course I'm sad. This is the first MAJOR family member that has really died since I was 3 and my Grandma died. I haven't cried and don't feel sad enough to cry, even though I had alot of good memories with him. Am I a bad person? Or just simply un-emotional? Please Reply.

You aren't a bad person. When my grandfather died, I didn't cry either. It's not like I wasn't sad. I think it might have been that I didn't realize that he was gone for good until several months later. Just give it some time to sink in, and once it does, remember he's in a better place.

Hey, I feel your pain. My grandmother died about 5 years ago. I'm pretty sure that I haven't cried. No-your not a bad person just because you didn't cry. In fact, when my grandmother died my dad(Her son) didn't cry at all. But, his sister(my aunt) cried a bunch. I guess it just depends on who you are if you cry when somebody dies.

Don't worry Tony ; you're not weird or abnormal or unemotional. As someone who's suffered grief through death themselves, all I can say is that sometimes it takes a while for the grief to sink in and the tears to start. Believe me, my nana died about a year and a half ago, and i've only just started to cry.

--ninja

I was just thinking about this the other day. My mom's godmother died when I was about 6, and I was really unemotional. I loved her, she was a really good family friend and I spent a lot of time with her... I just didn't really comprehend her passing. I suppose I was sad, but I guess being young you move on.. quickly? I felt quite guilty for not being upset, but I think it's a normal thing for some people.
The same with my dogs. I had 2 Maltese of the same who have been with me my whole life, and about a year and a half ago they both passed away within 2 weeks of each other. I cried a little when they first left, but otherwise I got through it quickly. Only now looking back do I realize how much I miss them, and cry about them and get upset. But it's okay to be emotional if you are eventually... it happens to everyone, and sometimes it helps to get it out.

Thank you all for helping me. I actually did end up crying at his burial with my Uncle on my other parents side. He had never meet the man who the funeral was for in his life, and yet he came to support me. That is what made me cry.